In a thought-provoking post, Sheila Wray Gregoire questioned the assumption that men naturally know more about sex than women. This idea, rooted in problematic cultural norms, suggests men are more experienced or informed, often due to exposure to porn or previous sexual encounters, while women are portrayed as naive.
One commenter, Sarah MacDugal, highlighted the flawed belief that men are more sexually knowledgeable, either because they’ve had past experiences or watched porn, which she argues perpetuates harmful dynamics. This notion can lead to unhealthy expectations and potentially abusive behaviours in marriages.
Gregoire argues that assuming men should be the authority on sex, especially if their knowledge comes from porn, is misguided. Porn teaches objectification, not intimacy. True sexual knowledge should prioritize mutual pleasure and understanding, as seen in the biblical example of Adam and Eve, where sex is about knowing and cherishing each other.
Moreover, men and women experience and enjoy sex differently. Statistics show a significant orgasm gap, with 95% of men reaching orgasm compared to only 48% of Christian women. This disparity suggests that men’s approach to sex often overlooks women’s needs. Thus, couples must learn together, fostering a mutual and fulfilling sexual relationship.
Ultimately, healthy sexuality should not be one-sided or dictated by misconceptions about gender. Instead, both partners should educate and support each other, ensuring a balanced and enjoyable sexual experience.
