Cynthia Nyamai, a former media personality and communication specialist, recently opened up about love, marriage, and purpose in an interview on the YouTube channel Dating Stories. Speaking candidly, Nyamai expressed her firm belief that her season for marriage is near, emphasizing the significance of knowing oneself before entering a lifelong commitment.
Nyamai, who has successfully built a career in ministry and business, acknowledged that her dating life has been sporadic due to her demanding schedule. She explained that her work, especially during high-security periods such as elections, often consumes her time, leaving little room for meeting new people. However, she remains optimistic about love and marriage, stressing that she will not settle for a relationship that does not align with her purpose.
“For me, it starts with the mind,” she said when describing the kind of man she is attracted to. She is drawn to strength and purpose, firmly stating that she has no interest in dating a weak man. “The pressure is interesting because when building a career, people tell me when you do so well and are very successful, not many people will want to date you. I’m like, that’s good—I also don’t want to date a weak man. I hate weakness very much; it will just be a turn-off.”
Nyamai also highlighted her perspective on gender roles within marriage. She firmly believes in the biblical principle of being a helper to her husband. “If I found the one and he even told me, ‘Cynthia, now I’d like you to be a housewife and take care of me,’ I’d resign. I will take care of him, so long as he is clear about his purpose and where he is going, and we will work together. Because I’m very clear, according to Scripture, I’m the helper. Me and that man, we are not competing—he is my leader; where he says we go, we go.”
Reflecting on her journey, Nyamai acknowledged that past experiences of abandonment and trauma shaped her approach to relationships. To protect herself, she immersed herself in her career. Despite this, she remains hopeful, revealing that her parents, especially her mother, are eagerly waiting for her to settle down and start a family.
“My mum is looking forward to grandchildren. We had this conversation, and I said, ‘Coming soon, coming soon.’ But the interesting thing is, when I was five years old, I told my mum I would settle in my forties.”
Nyamai believes her marriage will happen at the right time—when she is fully aware of who she is and when she has undergone complete healing. She envisions herself as a wife who uplifts and supports her husband while raising children with a strong sense of purpose.
“I already know—I’ve spent time with God. We haven’t agreed on the names yet, but I know my firstborn, second, and what God is calling them for.”
For her, parenting is a divine assignment. She stated that she would gladly leave her career if her husband asked her to, ensuring that she nurtures their family in alignment with her beliefs. Confident in her journey, Nyamai remains steadfast in her faith that love will find her at the perfect time.
