Time has a way of shaping our desires, dreams, and decisions. For podcaster Julia Gaitho, famously known as Jules, time has played a significant role in her evolving perspective on motherhood. In a candid conversation with Lynn Ngugi, Jules opened up about her considerations regarding egg freezing, reflecting on the ticking of her biological clock and the deep introspection that has come with it.
For years, Jules reveled in her independence. Unlike many women who dream of motherhood from an early age, she found herself “on the fence” about having children. While she had always envisioned marriage in her future, the idea of raising kids never held a firm place in her plans. The responsibilities of parenthood seemed overwhelming, and she valued her ability to live life on her own terms. However, as she entered her mid-thirties, time began to introduce a new urgency one that she had not felt before.
“The biological clock puts a certain pressure on women,” Jules admitted. “There were times I was sure I was going to have kids; other days, I was not.” This internal tug-of-war led her to consider freezing her eggs, a modern solution for women who want to extend their reproductive choices. Balancing between this life-changing decision and the desire to buy a new car, Jules humorously acknowledged the weight of the choices ahead.
Time has not only influenced her thoughts on motherhood but has also played a role in her friendships. The passage of time, coupled with personal growth, has led to painful losses in her social circles. Losing friendships, she confessed, was even more heartbreaking than romantic breakups. “Friends know you on an intimate level more than a partner does. Losing a friend, whether big or small, is not easy. I would not wish it on my worst enemy.”
Yet, time has also been a healer. While she once harbored anger over broken friendships, she found solace in therapy and in cultivating new, meaningful relationships. She now sees these losses as a way to make space for the people who truly matter.
As Jules stands at this pivotal crossroads, she acknowledges that time will continue to shape her choices. “I have big decisions to make in the next two years,” she said. Whether she chooses to freeze her eggs or embrace the present moment, one thing remains clear her journey is a testament to the power of time in guiding life’s most profound decisions.
