In a candid and heartfelt interview with Dr. Ofweneke, Lillian Ng’ang’a shared personal insights on love, loyalty, and the life lessons that have shaped her. The former Machakos First Lady, now an author and entrepreneur, was refreshingly honest about relationships, personal values, and self-growth. Here are the key takeaways from her revealing conversation:
1. Intelligence Over Looks
Lillian made it clear that what attracts her to a man isn’t physical appearance or social status—it’s intelligence. She admitted that both Alfred Mutua and Juliani caught her attention because of their intellect. “I like a man who stimulates my mind, teaches me things I don’t know,” she said.
2. Absolute Loyalty in Relationships
Addressing past speculations, Lillian emphasized that she is fiercely loyal in love. “I don’t cheat. When I’m with you, I’m with you. But when it’s over, it’s over.”
3. No Time for Polygamy
She didn’t mince words when discussing polygamy, stating that she sees it as an ego-driven move rather than a sign of success. “A successful man has one woman, loves his family, and provides.”
4. Always in a Relationship
Surprisingly, Lillian admitted that she has never experienced a single phase in her life. “I move from one relationship to another,” she shared, adding that even in high school, she was in a committed relationship.
5. Dislikes Heavy Drinking
Having grown up with a strict, disciplined father who didn’t drink, Lillian finds it difficult to be with men who drink excessively. “Alcohol changes people. It can make you lose respect for someone.”
6. Prefers a Partner Who Comes Home Early
Her upbringing influenced her views on family time. She struggles with partners who come home late, as she values stability and presence in a relationship.
7. Avoids Arguments but Hates Lies
Lillian doesn’t believe in unnecessary conflict but strongly detests dishonesty. “If someone wrongs you, it’s a decision they made. I don’t fight for relationships.”
8. Controlling Her Narrative
For years, people have made assumptions about her life, but she is now taking control of her own story. “People don’t really know me, but I’ve been put in a certain box. Now, I’m speaking my truth because I have a son and a legacy to protect.”
9. Running and Deep Breathing for Healing
Lillian revealed that she turns to physical and mental wellness techniques to cope with stress. “I go for a run. I do deep breathing. Breathing takes away all your problems.”
Her interview was a rare glimpse into the mind of a woman who has often been in the spotlight but rarely had the chance to share her true self. With wisdom, confidence, and a clear sense of identity, Lillian Ng’ang’a continues to inspire.
