Njoki Murira recently shared an experience from her past relationship with a Black American man, highlighting how he supported her in a meaningful way. While speaking about their time together, she reflected on the financial assistance he provided during a crucial moment when she was building a home for her parents. She recalled how he sent her $3,000 (about KSh 380,000) to help her finish the house, which she had struggled to complete due to financial constraints. This act of generosity stood out for her, as it was something her other partners had never done.
Njoki mentioned that her Black American ex had a habit of spoiling her, sending her regular allowances even after they faced challenges. She felt that Black American men, in her experience, were more generous than other men, including those from her home country. In her words, “That guy was a spoiler. Even white people are not spoilers like Black Americans. I do not know if it is because I have dated all of them and I can tell the difference.” This generosity made a lasting impression on her, especially during times when she needed it most.
She explained that at one point, she was unable to withdraw money from the bank because she had exceeded her withdrawal limit, and the bank flagged it as suspicious. The man quickly came to her aid, sending her the money she needed to buy iron sheets for the house, even though it was a rainy day and she couldn’t get to the bank immediately. She was deeply appreciative of this gesture and mentioned that this was a significant contrast to the experiences she had with other men.
Despite the kindness of her American ex, Njoki clarified that she was now in a relationship with a Kenyan man, who, she says, is also generous and spoils her. She expressed that her ex’s actions were something she had shared with her current partner, urging him to step up and exceed the level of care and generosity shown by her ex. Njoki’s message to Kenyan men was clear: treat women generously, as this makes a huge difference in relationships.
In addition to her reflections on relationships, Njoki shared her views on marriage, admitting that she had struggled with the concept of marriage for some time. She expressed that while she wanted to be in a relationship, she did not have any desire to take on the responsibility of taking care of a man. This led many to question whether she would ever want to get married, as her approach to relationships seemed to focus more on leading rather than nurturing.
Throughout the interview, Njoki’s candidness about her past relationship and the support she received left many impressed. Her comments sparked conversations online, with many praising her honesty and some relating to her experiences with their own partners.
