Let’s dissect a prevalent issue in evangelical culture: the tolerance of men who openly objectify women without facing consequences. Despite revealing misogynistic views or blaming women for men’s actions, such individuals often retain their status as respected figures.
Imagine a scenario where a pastor preaches that men inevitably struggle with lust, shifting blame onto women for their own thoughts and actions. In a healthy response, congregations would take steps to protect women from such pastors, recognizing the danger they pose. Yet, in reality, this rarely occurs.
It’s time to scrutinize male teachers and preachers who disclose their objectifying views of women. Take, for example, Fred Stoeker, co-author of books like “Every Man’s Battle,” who dismisses the trauma of sexual assault while perpetuating harmful stereotypes about men and women’s roles in relationships.
Stoeker’s statements generalize all men as inherently prone to objectification and manipulation. When he claims that men derive sexual gratification from their surroundings and struggle to maintain emotional boundaries, he’s including himself in these assertions.
By personalizing these statements, we confront the individual responsibility of Stoeker and others who propagate harmful beliefs. If Stoeker wants to disassociate himself from these damaging generalizations, he must acknowledge the problem and commit to change. Ultimately, it’s not about blaming women but holding men accountable for their attitudes and behaviours.
